Sometimes, it takes a while for the heart to catch up with your brain. You know in your mind that enough is enough. You know that this should stop, that it isn’t right anymore. But why do you keep on doing it? Because you feel like you have to. Because you feel like it’s your fault and you want to fix it. Because you feel awful and guilty and, most of all, confused because it’s all happening so fast.
The thing is, when something isn’t right anymore and it’s beyond repair, you should stop forcing it. Stop trying, especially if you’re giving up too much of you.
At the end of the day, if it all implodes anyway despite your efforts, you’ll be left with nothing. You’ll be left tired, worn out and alone. You’ll be left feeling like you don’t know anything anymore. What’s worse is that you don’t even recognize yourself anymore.
Love and respect yourself enough to walk away.
Fringe Benefits of Failure (Comic)
Now, I am not going to stand here and tell you that failure is fun. That period of my life was a dark one, and I had no idea that there was going to be what the press has since represented as a kind of fairy tale resolution. I had no idea then how far the tunnel extended, and for a long time, any light at the end of it was a hope rather than a reality.
It just sums up my life right now perfectly. I had reached a dream of mine and sadly, allowed myself to get distracted thus causing me to fail. Yes, I failed. I failed to stay in a college of law so many dream to be in. I failed to have the law school experience I envisioned myself to have. I failed to have the life I envisioned myself to have at 21-22. I’m not where I dreamed I would be. I’m not even close.
And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.
…but some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default
Here is where I can make a difference. I can stand up from the fall I’ve taken and rise like a phoenix after its burning day. I can get over this. I can get through this. I’ve read this speech before but never has its message resonated with me as much as it has now.
J.K. Rowling is proof that yes, life will get better after adversity; that yes, you are more than capable of achieving all that you’ve dreamt for yourself.
Things will get better. I’ve been saying that for a while but I’ve only started believing it.
Read the full speech HERE